Recently my social status has been the source of unsolicited advice and messages of hope. Apparently me being single is a state that concerns people (not you, Mom) and a status that I obtained because apparently “there is something wrong here” WTF!!!!!!
I think that is the most unrespectful thing you can do to me. First, being single is not bad, not bad at all. I get to hang with amazing people, meet new friends and go to every place I get invited. I can get to the beach in 12 minutes flat without feeling guilty that I left someone behind*. Do I want a partner? Of course I do, but in the process I won’t stop living my life and become a spinster.
The worst part of my singlehood is the advice that I didn’t ask for. Keep in mind that your opinion and advice for me to tame my individuality is the most horrific and insulting you can do to a human being. Tolerance is a virtue that we all need to work, but if a potential mate can’t handle that I may have a strong opinion on a world affair or a pair of socks, most likely he cant handle the whole package that includes a very opinionated dachshund and a genius niece.
Am I hopeful? Yes, very. In fact I have faith that I’ll find a mate for life. I have to say I’m realistic on what I’m looking for. I don’t want perfection, because I’m not perfect. Do I have high standards? I don’t think so, I’m just realistic. If you ask me what you would want, I have an answer: someone with a strong work ethic, good hygiene, a sense on current events and the ability to laugh easily (dark, tall and handsome dancer won’t hurt either). Do I think I’m a good catch? Yes. I always tell people I’m single not because of lack of virtues, but lack of suitors. We just haven’t met.
The worst part of my singlehood is the advice that I didn’t ask for. Keep in mind that your opinion and advice for me to tame my individuality is the most horrific and insulting you can do to a human being. Tolerance is a virtue that we all need to work, but if a potential mate can’t handle that I may have a strong opinion on a world affair or a pair of socks, most likely he cant handle the whole package that includes a very opinionated dachshund and a genius niece.
Am I hopeful? Yes, very. In fact I have faith that I’ll find a mate for life. I have to say I’m realistic on what I’m looking for. I don’t want perfection, because I’m not perfect. Do I have high standards? I don’t think so, I’m just realistic. If you ask me what you would want, I have an answer: someone with a strong work ethic, good hygiene, a sense on current events and the ability to laugh easily (dark, tall and handsome dancer won’t hurt either). Do I think I’m a good catch? Yes. I always tell people I’m single not because of lack of virtues, but lack of suitors. We just haven’t met.
There are people in my world in marriages and relationships that are just plain miserable, even in relationships, which is heartbreaking. I just have to look around just get grateful. I’m single, yes and but not for long. The amount of love and the support system that I have won’t let me fall and won’t like me being with someone just because.
So, please while I appreciated your concern about my life without a partner, please just keep my potential mate in your nightly prayers and keep your mouth shut. In the end, like it or not I’m just Carla. Either love it or take the high road. Do the singles a favor and treat them with respect, because most likely we are NOT the source of problem of our social status.
*I’m willing to compromise and wait-you see I’m not THAT bad
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